You have a Filet and a Hot Dog. Pairing them together as a course option at a restaurant just doesn’t work. The Hot Dog doesn’t work with the Filet and the Filet doesn’t work with the Hot Dog. This is the best way that I can describe a power imbalance.
A power imbalance is when one guy or girl in a relationship is higher than another, typically in terms of social status.
This is more common in high school than in any other environment, so if you’re in high school, listen up.
When the most popular girl in school is dating a guy who isn’t so popular, for example, it’s a problem. When one party holds the control and the other is lucky to even be part of the relationship, it’s a problem.
A relationship is a partnership between equals. If your partner or potential partner has a social status that is higher than yours or lower than yours, it’s not a relationship, it’s a power imbalance. When one has more wealth or social status than another, it can work, but one will likely feel more empowered over the other.
That’s not how a relationship is supposed to work. It’s supposed to be you and her as a team. Any other way is incorrect. When one has leverage over the other or a feeling of owing the other, it’s not good.
When a highly prestigious steak house collaborates with a locally owned, quiet steakhouse, it may seem good. The small steakhouse obviously loves the attention that its getting because of the bigger steakhouse being involved. But the prestigious steak house feels superior in the situation. Now, the lower steak house owes the bigger one for helping them along. That’s not a good partnership. A good partnership needs to be balanced.
So, guys, if you feel like the luckiest guy for being the most popular girl although you’re not very popular, reevaluate your situation. What does she gain from you and what do you gain from her? Think critically, as there could be a power imbalance happening.
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